No More 'Naughty or Nice' Santa Story!
You remember the song:
"He sees you when you're sleeping. He knows when you're awake. He knows when you've been bad or good..."
The naughty or nice/good or bad Santa/gift giving story supports damaging self-worth in children, and teaches them that they are loved - conditionally.
Children will believe that they need to be a certain way to be loved = I need to be good so Santa (or anyone) will be nice to me and give me love (in the form of gifts). If your child believes she needs to be a 'good girl' or 'good boy' to get love, it reinforces that s(he) is flawed and broken, and needs to be fixed, and this can lead to unsafe situations. They then take these beliefs into adulthood as many of us have. When children possess a healthy self-worth and self-esteem, they know that they are always loved no matter what. They love themselves exactly as they are, and love others - unconditionally.
Let's create a shift in how we parent children. Let's raise the bar of how conscious we are about our own childhood beliefs, and how we allow these beliefs/stories to impact what we teach children.