The Lifetime Trauma of Circumcision
“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.”― quote by author + professor, bell hooks
This act of emotional self-mutilation is significantly attributed to the violence of circumcision. Physically, circumcision is the excruciatingly-painful surgical removal of the skin covering the tip of the penis primarily during the newborn stage. The male is taught that his body (specifically his most masculine-identified body part) is flawed and needs to be painfully altered - leading to nerve damage to the penis.
From early on, he's expected to 'be a man', toughen up, never acknowledge, and heal this profound pain/trauma that's now stored in his adult body. This wounded masculine energy is passed on to the next generation, and the next, and on...
How he views, and defines himself as a boy and man are impacted, prioritizing his emotional well-being is non-existent. He's unable to create and engage in the deep joy, pleasure, and spiritual healing of sexual intimacy.
He builds a false sense of manhood and power because his power to be whole and free in his body were severed. Now, he creates a feeling of power from outside himself by:
participating in sexual promiscuity/focusing on fucking (the act of sex without emotional connection) or having no interest in sex at all (he may also experience impotency)
distracting himself with work (not enjoying his service in the world but defining his self-worth and self-esteem from employment titles/status, etc)
demonstrating to the boy child not to cry or own/express his emotions (special note: there are girls in certain parts of the world who also experience circumcision, or female genital mutilation. This savage attempt to annihilate sexual feelings and the power of the divine feminine is crippling to her physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. Her journey is equally acknowledged as that of the male's experience with circumcision).
Our practice provides consultation and product solutions to safely and gently address the healing of circumcision trauma. To learn more, please contact our office. ~N Over to you: How do you assist and support your child(ren) to create and experience body autonomy?